Not all couples who experience fertility issues are childless, many couples have had children prior and are now having difficulty conceiving their second or third child. When a woman has had a previous child or a previous pregnancy, it is referred to as secondary infertility.

After getting pregnant once, most couples assume having a baby the second time round will be plain sailing. However, that is not always the case, and it can be personally devastating not being able to create the family you envisioned for you and your partner.

Take a look at some of the emotional issues you may face when experiencing secondary infertility.

1. You Will Feel Guilty

You Will Feel Guilty

It is natural to feel guilty about being sad. The common perception is that couples who already have a child should be content with what they have, as those who are affected by primary infertility are far worse off.

However, the series of tests and investigations to determine secondary infertility do not differ from those who have never conceived a child. With this, secondary infertility places you in a unique situation; you experience all the same emotions of infertile couples who have never had a baby, but you don’t feel you fully qualify to grieve about being infertile.

2. Learning To Accept There Is A Problem

Learning To Accept There Is A Problem

Learning to accept this new position that you are in can be challenging.

Why was it so easy before?

I have never had problems with my fertility before, why now?

Why is my body failing me?

These are questions that will run through your mind, and it is tough accepting the fact that there might be a problem with you or your partner.

The causes for secondary infertility are generally the same as the causes for primary infertility. For a women infertility can be caused by fallopian tube disease (occurring possibly by a previous pregnancy), ovulation dysfunction, a poor number of eggs or there may be abnormalities in the uterus.

The same is true for men; a man’s sperm can decrease over time, and men can have poor sperm quality over time.

It is very important when trying to determine secondary infertility, all the possible causes for primary infertility are evaluated. To address any secondary infertility issues, arrange an appointment with your GP who will be able to advise you on the next steps to testing you and your partner’s fertility.

3. It Is More Common Than You Think

It Is More Common Than You Think

Almost one in seven couples experience fertility issues, and secondary infertility is actually more common than not being able to conceive in the first instance.

If you already have conceived a child, chances are other people will ask if you have plans to expand your family and there are people who will be very open about their infertility issues. However, some will prefer not to share their private life with anyone other than their partner or close family members.

Don’t feel pressurised to answer everyone. When you are struggling to do something which you perceive is a natural human function, it will hit you at your most basic level, don’t feel ashamed.