A miscarriage can have a profound emotional impact on not only you, but your partner, family and friends.

You may be left with feelings of sadness, regret and even confusion.

“This feels like a punishment, what did I do wrong?”

“I was in complete shock, I had just found out I was pregnant. Now it was all over.”

Although these are common reactions after such a traumatic event, it is important to understand that there is no right or wrong way to respond after a miscarriage.

Recovering from a miscarriage will take time, we look at what to expect from both your body and mind.

Dealing With Your Feelings

After a miscarriage many women experience feelings of guilt and sadness. Even if the pregnancy was in its very early stages, you are likely to feel depressed and worried that the miscarriage was a result of something you did.

The truth is, very often pregnancy loss is out of your control, but ensure you have a follow-up appointment with your GP or the hospital to find out if there were any possible causes as this may have an impact on future pregnancies.

Acknowledging Your Partner’s Feelings

There can also be a strong emotional impact on your partner after a miscarriage, yet their feelings can often be ignored.

Seeing your baby on a scan, or receiving baby gifts from colleagues or family can accentuate feelings of sadness for men and they may find it very difficult to cope.

Support should be offered to both you and your partner; by ensuring they feel included in the grieving process you can both move forward together as a team.

Support

Additional treatment and counselling is available if you feel you or your partner are struggling to cope with grief.

Various support groups are on hand that can help you deal with loss, the following organisations are also there to help couples who have lost a baby:

Trying Again After Miscarriage

As we have mentioned before, everyone’s experience of miscarriage is different and there is no right or wrong way to respond.

Some women feel that they want to get pregnant again straight away, others may feel apprehensive or anxious about trying to conceive again.

It is not an easy decision deciding whether to try again, and there are some things you might need to consider:

– Your partner’s feelings

– Your family and friends thoughts

– If it is medically safe to try again; consult your doctor to see about the risk of another miscarriage

– Tests or treatment you might need

– Work or career influences

– Money issues, especially if you need to consider fertility treatments